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<body topmargin=0 leftmargin=0 marginheight=0 marginwidth=0><script type="text/javascript" src="http://hb.lycos.com/hb.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://ratings.lycos.com/ratings/lycosRating.js.php"></script> <script type="text/javascript"><![CDATA[//><!]]></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://scripts.lycos.com/catman/init.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://members.tripod.com/adm/ad/code-start.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://members.tripod.com/adm/ad/code-middle.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://members.tripod.com/adm/ad/code-end.js"></script> <noscript> <img src="http://members.tripod.com/adm/img/common/ot_noscript.gif?rand=712546" alt="" width="1" height="1" />  <iframe frameborder="0" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" scrolling="no" width="728" height="90" src="http://ad.yieldmanager.com/st?ad_type=iframe&ad_size=728x90&section=209094"></iframe>  </noscript> <table cellpadding=0 cellspacing=0 border=0><tr> <td valign="top" colspan=2 height=90 BGCOLOR="#FFFFFF" TEXT="#080000" background="127015b3.jpg"> <div> <B>Help4Self   Center</b><B>    ...</b><FONT SIZE="6" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Humanst521 BT" ><B>  </b></FONT><FONT SIZE="1" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" ><B>  </b><B>    </b></FONT></div> <div> <A HREF="id2.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Reading">Reading</A>   |   <A HREF="id4.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="SELFhelp Articles">SELF-help Articles</A>   |   <A HREF="id72.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Questions">Questions</A>   |   <A HREF="id21.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Dr. Mathis">Dr. Mathis</A></div> <div> </div> </td> </tr><tr> <td valign="top" width=191 BGCOLOR="#FFFFFF" TEXT="#080000"> <div> <B>"The final quality of love is freedom. 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